Argh- the time is almost here- how did we get to this?? My baby will be in school in a couple of very fast months!
To say this time has gone fast is such an understatement, and I so wish I had been more organised, more clued up and more clear about where I needed to be for the good of my family years ago.
Only now am I actually doing something about getting our family a better lifestyle, I was so hung up on the day job and the salary that it brings being a comfort blanket. Paying for our lovely house, cars, holidays and other niceties that I thought I had to be OK with the time I was spending away from my babies.
The truth is, out of their lives they spend 5 days a week from 7:30am to 6:00pm (usually) with someone other than me. Now that is only 32.5% of the week, but when they then spend 41% asleep that means I get 26.5% with them- providing I have no life away from them and spend every single minute with them. Which just isn't true. I think I spend 23% of an average week with my children- 23%! How has that ever become OK???
The problem now is, to change that and make it so I can spend more time with them I need to get a job where I can work only the hours they are at school, which pays a full time salary and is actually at home so I don't have any travel time to contend with. Where am I going to find a job like that? Nowhere I can think of- if you know of anyone that will pay me that well for working school hours (and term time only of course) then please put me in touch immediately!
So what can we do? Make the most of the time we do spend together- that 23% has got to mean everything to them, and me because it is that we will all remember. Cleaning gets in the way, ironing gets in the way, shopping gets in the way so I rarely do any of those things- I would rather pay someone to clean my house and iron my clothes so I can spend that time with my children and click and collect shopping is the way forward for me.
But, is that enough? Will those few saved hours give us the memories we want and deserve? I don't think so, and I am annoyed with myself for not thinking this through a few years ago and coming to the same conclusion or I would be further down the journey we are on now than we are.
My solution- to become a business owner, to take my future and that of my family into my own hands. If I work hard, put in the effort during that 41% of the week that the kids are in bed (like right now), be confident and offer something that other people could want then I can give myself the opportunity to increase the 23% in the future. It won't be quick, and it wont be easy, it may take years before I can get even 2% more time with my children but they will know I tried. And they will know what hard work is- working full time, supporting their school and local clubs, building a business and hopefully showing them what it is to have a good work ethic and take personal responsibility for the outcomes and place in life that I have now.
Who knows what the future holds? Will I make it to 25%, 30% or more?? Or will I stick on 23% until they are too grown up to want to be with me anyway? I don't know, but I am not going to sit still and wait. I am going to try, I am going to fight for our future, I am going to put myself out there in uncomfortable situations (like discussing personal thoughts in public!) and I am going to make The Fairy Academy the best experience for little people that it could be.
I would love for you all to join us on this journey, your support means so much to us all. A like or share on facebook, a nice word in person, passing on our details to friends who may be interested, giving us suggestions of places where we could grow and develop- sharing our excitement and enthusiasm and generally being the lovely Fairy Followers that we know you are. It all helps. It could all impact that 23%